Ways to Cope When Trying to Conceive

Ways to Cope When Trying to Conceive
 
 
 If trying to get pregnant takes longer than you first expected, it can quickly take over your life. Infertility is difficult emotionally, and the fertility challenged can make you worried and obsessed.
While you can't change your circumstances, you can actually change how you face the challenge. Below are some here are 10 ways to cope and keep infertility from control over your life.

Don't Let the Two Week Wait Take Over

The two week wait is a time of high stress for most women trying to conceive.
If you want to stop letting the two week wait take over your life, you need to focus on other things and people during that time.
This is the time to plan a date with your partner or a girls-night-out with your friends. This is a good time to go see that movie you always wanted to see, or to get started on some home or craft project.
Your two week wait obsessions may still linger in the back of your mind, but that's much better than letting them sit in the front seat.

Stop Letting Your Period's Arrival Pull You Down for Days

Most women don’t find it funny when their monthly period comes, but when you're trying to conceive, you're likely to feel upset. Getting your period is a pretty definitive sign that this month was another failure. Whatever hope you had that this time was going to work is squashed.
If you've experienced miscarriages, getting your period may not only signal another failed cycle, but also remind you of previous losses too bad!
No one expects you to be happy on the first day of your cycle but don't let it pull you down for days or weeks. You might end up feeling depressed the first week of your cycles, obsessed with ovulating the next week or so of your cycle, and then anxious during the last two weeks of your cycle. That's no way to live!

Remember To Reclaim What You Used to Love

The stress of infertility can get our minds so wrapped up in getting pregnant that we forget what we used to do for fun. Get some paper and a pen, and start making a list of everything you can possibly think of that you used to love doing. Feel free to even write down what made you laugh when you were a kid – and so on why not?
If you're having trouble, call up a friend or have your partner help you out. Ask them directly what they remember doing together with you that made you smile. See how many items you can add to the list. Aim for 50!
Then, post your list where you'll see it every day. Hopefully, on the days you're feeling really down, you'll see the list and take action on something you wrote.

Spend More Romantic Time with Your Partner

Infertility is known for turning sex into a chore. What used to be a passionate time to connect intimately with your partner may now feel like a task one with a seemingly unattainable goal. When the sexual relationship breaks down, the every-day parts of your relationship may soon follow.
It's important to give attention to the relationship you have with your partner. Take time to talk to each other about how infertility is impacting your relationship, and what you both need to feel more connected.
Remember that list of fun things I asked you to make? I bet several are activities you do with others. You may even want to make a new list together, featuring the activities you'd like to do as a couple.

Make Time for Relaxation and Self-Care

Taking care of yourself does not just mean eating right and seeing your doctor for check-ups. It also means making time for relaxation.
Relaxation may mean taking a long bath, or it might mean turning up the music and dancing yourself silly in your living room. Relaxation might be meditation or even yoga.
There are several mind-body therapies that can help you relax, and some have been shown to improve pregnancy rates. They're worth trying!

Make Time to Acknowledge the Difficult Feelings

Taking back your life from infertility doesn't mean pretending infertility doesn't have a strong hold on your emotions. In fact, creating time to acknowledge the difficult feelings can help you feel more relaxed afterwards.

Writing out your story can also help someone, and you can share your trying to get pregnant story here
 

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